How to Improve your personality

Develop a Genuine interest in People, Avoid being Judgemental Nobody likes to be around someone who always criticising others.

THE WAY WE ARE:
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Do you envy the popular set and wonder why you are not part of that clique? Relax, follow these five steps and watch your ratings rise You don’t even know him/her but you have this irre­sistible urge to say hi every time you walk by And strangely everyone else feels the same are you, they stop to chat with them for a moment or two and always leave smiling No, we are not talking about the office, crush. We are talking about the people magnet,' a specimen lot of us envy.

We are some people in the office or our circle always so popular? They are surrounded by a bunch of people who genuinely like them and enjoy their company The People Magnets Never have that awkward what do I now that I don't have anyone to talk to moment, a that strikes you much too often.

If you are the reclusive sort who doesn’t care a fig about your populari­ty reading now. But if you go to very day agonizing: "what does he she has that I don't," here are some tips to make you the chosen one.

BE WARM: Frosty treat-only gets you positive results in and Boon novels. In the real world you not only need to be warm to attract people, you need to display warmth too. A surefire way to looking warm, read, approachable is to smile The moment you do so, you be other person that you are will you tell the other person I am drawn to people who has a reasonably smiling face, it’s a kind of an invitation says Army Officer Atul Srivastava.

Danger But please, don't keep grinning all the time. There are times a you need to be other things sympathetic, or concerned, for instance.

BE INTERESTED: if you want people to be inter­ested in you, you should show them that you are genuinely interested in them.
"When someone comes up to you and starts talking about something that concerns him/her, listen. Make eye contact and give him/her your full attention. The person should feel that he/she matters," says Aggarw­al .

Also, you will agree that you like to be appreciated. Ditto for the rest of us. "Forget flattery. Figure out everyone's good points. Give honest and sincere appreciation. People will treasure your words and repeat them over a lifetime, long after you've forgotten you have uttered them," says Dale Carnegie in How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Danger : But remember, you can fake interest for some time, not for very long. It's better to develop a genuine curiosity about people if you really want to be popular. Also avoid being judgmental; nobody likes to be around someone who is always criti­cising others. Try and understand why people do what they do.

BE WITTY : "I love being around people who crack jokes and relate funny anecdotes," says Adeeti Verma, an MNC employee.
A witty person always has a mag­netic effect on people. Others view him/her as someone who is approach­able and easygoing. "The ability to laugh at yourself once in a while is also a very endearing quality. SRK is always doing it and he is so magnet­ic," says entrepreneur Veena Khanna.

Danger : But that doesn't mean you start cracking every PJ you know. Don't over do it. No one likes to be near a loud or crude person. Be careful you do not offend any­one. "Your humour should not be derogatory. You cannot can't poke fun at someone in the group and expect to be popular," warns Aggarwal.

BE CONFIDENT: People with low self-confidence do not attract the attention of others. That is be­cause low self-esteem shows in your body language.
Corporate trainer Rajesh Aggarwal points out that people listen more to your body language than to what you say. That means people are more like­ly to believe the message your body is communicating than what you are saying. So you may smile and say 'hi' but if you look defensive or tense (arms crossed in front of your chest), no one will want to linger and talk to you. To look relaxed, keep your hands at your sides and a foot slightly forward. That is the most inviting posture.

Posture can make a big difference. Journalist Ajay Sharma mentions how people reacted differently to him the moment he decided to walk a little straighter, held his head a little high­er "I was always sure of myself bat; was very shy. So, I decided to get across my self-confidence to other. The day I started striding across the room to introduce myself to with a smile, everyone's attitude changed."

Danger: Don't, however comic across as cocky. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance.

BE PRESENTABLE: Agreed, a good-looking person is not necessarily interesting, that does not mean you neglect the way you look. Take care of your looks because smart people attract them if you can't be bothered with following fashion trends, develop a style that is yours alone. "Anybody who breaks conventional stereotypes, attracts people's interest," says Dr Raheja. Danger . But he sounds a cautionary

note: "Don't be eccentric, be individualistic." And yes, don’t be vain.